“I mean if there was authentic sex being shown on the screen like you were saying with actual communication happening I would love to see that!”
I highly recommend Crashpad Series, Erika Lust, Make Love Not Porn, Jennifer Lyon Bell, and many more! This is becoming its own industry, which is really great to see. Though I would remember that having sex on film is still a business and it’s ok to like the sexual athleticism we see in less “authentic” depictions. I’m a huge fan of communication during porn (and as someone who reviewed it for a long time, I’ve learned to see body language and whispers in the ear as further, less explicit examples of that communication happening).
Also check out http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/09/feminist-porn/