I’m going to write a follow up piece to address your query- but I have to say, I don’t have it all, at *all*! I struggle a lot with my fit, cis, white male partner having relative ease meeting casual sex partners, dates, and flirting friends, because his is the desirable body in society’s eyes. It’s traumatic and frustrating, girl, and I don’t have it all figured out yet. So solidarity and hugs!